In my role as a coach, instructor, trainer and friend I constantly encounter people wanting to loose weight. "Just a few kgs", "I want a flatter stomach", "I would like to say bye bye elephant ears", the list goes on and on. My first reaction is to think why? What is the true reason you want to loose weight?
We live in a media bombarded world, constantly being thrown pictures of celebrities looking fabulous and magazine articles talking about how they manage to keep so beautiful and slim. Why are we so focused on them and why are we so focused about wanting to look like them? Is it because we hear our friends, colleagues, families and others talking about how wonderful they are? Is it because we wish we could have them talk about us in that way? For the most part that is what I see the most. People seeking external validation, compliments but most of all love. You may feel that your husband is more focused on his work than you or maybe you were bullied as a child. Do you really need someone else's compliments and validation to be happy? The big thing I have learnt is that happiness and love comes from within. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to love ourselves unconditionally. No matter what we do, what we look like and what we feel. We are all beautiful wonderful creations that deserve love.
Another push in our media driven world is the constant talk about what is right and wrong. Eat this, do that, sleep for this long, don't do this, you must do this otherwise you run the risk of heart attack. There is a lot of conflicting information out there. Some days I admit, it does my head in and leaves me feeling rather overwhelmed. All of the above drives us to be scared and riddled with fear. We can be scared to eat, scared to exercise, work, sleep and scared that if we don't conform to set parameters we are out of here to our grave. But who is to tell us what is right and wrong for us? Do we really know what right and wrong is? All of the information we are fed just comes from sample sizes, usually from looking at others who are not us. They are not you, they are different to you. What is right for them is most likely different to what is right for you. If you feel pretty good, have lots of energy but aren't quite a size 8, then does it really matter? Maybe that is where you are supposed to be.
So if you are on a quest to loose a few kilograms, my request is for you to stop, take a deep breath and think for a moment. Why are you doing it?
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